The Anonymous Us Project
Anonymity in family formation hides the truth. Anonymity in story-telling reveals it.
November 16, 2015 08:39 PM PST
"To My Donor:": The looming possibility all donor children face regarding parental death becomes too much to bear after nightmares continue to occur of her/his biological father's dying.
"I Met the Child My Donation Made": An egg or sperm donor reflects on the uncomfortable experience of meeting biological offspring that desire an emotional connection.
"A Confession": After using an anonymous sperm donor, a social parent eventually uncovers his identity, and yet seems resolved in withholding it from his biological children indefinitely.
"It's Not About Me.": A donor-conceived individual enounces an observation that her/his social parents, and perhaps intoning broader implications, relied in vain upon donor-conception to solve or absolve their personal issues.Episode 33
November 02, 2015 11:16 AM PST
"I Am a Sperm Donor": A sperm donor relates his beliefs and opinions of the policies of the fertility industry, confessing his desire to contact his biological children.
"I Regret...": Following a diligent investigation into the identity of her/his biological father, a donor-conceived individual is disappointed in the result of the entire endeavor.
"The Good and the Bad": A donor-conceived child contacts her/his biological father and is, for a time, encouraged to believe contact will be lasting; however, this hope is destroyed as complications develop within the relationship.Episode 32
October 23, 2015 08:59 AM PDT
"The Truth and Miracles": A prospective father defends his perspective that donor-children cannot thoroughly comprehend the struggles undergone by infertile couples.
"To Any Parent That Thinks Their Donor Conceived Child Simply Doesn’t Care": A donor-conceived woman deplores her mother's lack of understanding in regards to her biological father, as well as her anguish in being deprived of her biological family..Episode 31
October 05, 2015 06:38 PM PDT
"Found": After discovering her/his biological mother and witnessing the similarities both externally and internally, a donor-conceived individual grapples with when to make contact, if at all.
"We Adopted Instead": An adoptive mother implores others considering donor-conception as an option to instead adopt; why create a child when one already exists in dire need of aid?
"My Clan": An elderly man boasts of his many children through sperm-donation and elucidates on his maneuvering around clinic standards of donor age and child quota.Episode 30
September 21, 2015 07:25 PM PDT
"Confused and Out of Place": A donor-conceived child struggles with a social mother that refuses to aid her in the search for her biological mother.
"I Finally Found You": After seven years of searching, a donor-conceived child finally discovers the identity of her/his donor, but soon after the contact is disappointed with the emotionally complex results.Episode 29
September 07, 2015 07:21 PM PDT
"I Regret...": A mother of an IVF child concedes to regretting a decision she made in the past, that subsequently affected her future children.
"To the Parents Who Chose To Use A Donor and Now Fear You Made A Mistake After Reading Some of These Stories": A donor-conceived child counsels parents on the healthiest way to address their children, and to encourage them, regarding their conception and wishes for biological connection.Episode 28
August 17, 2015 07:51 PM PDT
"To My Donor: It's Not Your Fault": A donor-conceived individual grapples with the newfound understanding that the struggles faced in her or his life can no longer be placed upon the shoulders of her or his absent biological father.
"A Weird Kind of Closure": Following a message through Facebook, a donor-conceived child begins to secure a closure of sorts around her or himself.
"You Can Choose Your Friends, Not Your____": The mother of an egg-donor conceived child relates her difficulty with her infertility and the callousness with which some fertile parents treat the children they have.
"Proud, Loving donor Daddy": A sperm donor elucidates upon his specific process of donation and interaction with the recipient families, and the diversity with which his involvement in his children's lives is treated.Episode 27
August 03, 2015 06:52 PM PDT
In this episode there are five featured stories, including three donor-conceived perspectives; a former prospective parent who decided the 'savior mentality' of those who advocate the usage of anonymous embryos was not one that she maintained, nor one she supported; and lastly, a clinical psychologist in training elaborates on her empathy for and acknowledgement of the pain of donor-conceived children.Episode 26
July 20, 2015 02:41 PM PDT
This episode features five stories, three from donor-conceived individuals, one from a parent of two donor-conceived children, and one from a donor.
Diversity is prevalent within the perspectives of this episode, and emotions range from regret, to indignation, to sadness, to gratitude.Episode 25
July 06, 2015 09:32 PM PDT
There are a plentitude of stories in this episode, and, by a listener's request, all pertain exclusively to the varying experiences of children of same-sex unions.
Included are testimonies from children of gay and lesbian couples, and all, whether admonishing the carelessness of adults when predetermining a fate other than their own, or gratefully acknowledging the insistent and resilient love shown by homosexual parents, are not often perceived within mainstream society.
The Anonymous Us Project is a safety zone for real and honest opinions about reproductive technologies and family fragmentation. We aim to share the experiences of voluntary and involuntary participants in these technologies, while preserving the dignity and privacy for story-tellers and their loved ones.
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