The Anonymous Us Project
Anonymity in family formation hides the truth. Anonymity in story-telling reveals it.
June 20, 2016 11:10 AM PDT
"3 Dads": A donor-conceived individual relates a frustration that she/he is being denied a legitimacy to the emotional attachment they have developed to their long-deceased social father.
"Lost and Longing": Experiencing severely conflicting emotions, an egg donor under the impression of anonymity, is contacted by her biological daughter.
"To Lost and Longing": In response to a fellow author, a donor expresses a shared anxiety at potential contact with offspring ruining already established marital and familial relationships.Episode 47
June 06, 2016 08:18 PM PDT
"That's Not My Name": A donor-conceived child elaborates on the difficulties of bearing a name belonging to a social family that proved unwelcoming.
"Broken Record": Experiencing a duality of emotions, a donor child expostulates the lack of connection afforded biological offspring and parents, and the passivity with which many people approach this lack of connection.
"What is a Parent?": A prospective parent sympathizes with donor-conceived plights, but also stresses the importance of raising children with a *true* family rather than valuing biological paradigms as the pinnacle of family dynamics.Episode 46
May 17, 2016 08:41 AM PDT
"Regrets About Being an Egg Donor": An egg donor laments her decision of donation due to a prevalence of intended parents' rejection of their donors' identities in relation to their children.
"You Are the Hero in Our Epic Tale": An intended parent expresses gratitude for her or his egg donor's contribution, and insists that the donor holds no shameful connotation in their lives.Episode 45
May 02, 2016 03:45 PM PDT
"The Backwards Cinderella Story": Being raised by a social father, a donor child relates her findings that family, as well as fatherhood, is able to circumvent genetics altogether.
"The Price of Motherhood": A donor-conceived child narrates the story of her conception, and her mother's tenacious and unconventional determination that brought her to life.Episode 44
April 18, 2016 11:54 AM PDT
"Feeling Cheated and Used": An egg donor relates feeling betrayed after her friend agreed to inform the children they created together of their true maternity, seemingly only to achieve securing her eggs.
"The Law of the Jungle?": An observer remarks on the similarities when a scene from Kipling's 'The Jungle Book' are used as an allegory for donor anonymity.
"I Have a Sister": A donor-conceived child presents a paradigm of family not solely as one that is chosen, but also one that is comprised of blood relations as genuine kin.Episode 43
April 04, 2016 12:39 PM PDT
You Are You": An adoptee reflects on the experience of reuniting with her/his birth family, the value of understanding the life one could have led, and the love and support already offered by an adoptive family.
"Or Is It Me Being Selfish": Contrasting with other donor-conceived narratives, a donor child mourns the loss of her/his paternal figure as a position, not a specific man that manifests as a donor.Episode 42
March 21, 2016 07:54 PM PDT
"I Often Think of Him": The parent of a donor-conceived offspring confesses to her child that she thinks often of the donor she used, illuminating his importance in the outline of their small family.
"I Did the 'Right' Thing, Why Do I Feel So Horrible?": A former prospective mother tells of her intentions and near success in using a donor to conceive a child, her ultimate decision to cease the process, and the lingering sorrow that plagues with the absence of a child.
"Motivation": A sperm donor defends his motives for donation with statistics and his own perspective, insisting that most donors are not as maleficent in reality as they are portrayed in our language.
February 29, 2016 07:07 PM PST
"Fixing Birth Certificates": A third-party recounts the story of a friend who is currently advocating to exercise her right to have a birth certificate reflecting her genetic parentage.
"Open Egg Donation": A prospective parent is so moved by the narratives of struggle recounted by donor-conceived individuals that she or he has resolved to use only an open donor for her or his future child.
"I Feel Like You Are Thinking of Me, Too": An egg donor writes a letter intended for her daughter, who she severely yearns to know and love.Episode 40
February 15, 2016 03:53 PM PST
"Which is Worse...": A prospective parent is aghast at the pain donor children feel at the loss of their biological heritage.
"Donor-conceived and Barren": A donor-conceived child expresses terrible sadness at the loss of her/his biological father, and, due to infertility, the loss of any future biological children.
"Lost and Messed Up": A donor child admits that the absence of a biological father resulted in significant psychological difficulties.
"I Wonder": Desperately a donor-conceived child writes to her/his unknown siblings, wondering if they have ever given thought to their donor-conceived status.
"Possible Grandparent of Donated Baby": A prospective grandparent admits deep sadness at her/his son's infertility, which has resulted in his use of a sperm donor.Episode 39
February 01, 2016 07:42 PM PST
"All I Want for My Birthday": A donor-conceived child wishes for a conversation over coffee with her/his donor as a twenty-first birthday present.
"Don’t You DARE Hit MY Child!": Recounting an abusive incident from childhood, a donor-conceived individual posits the question of whether social fathers are more inclined to mistreat their donor-conceived offspring.
"Confused Donor": An egg donor finds the stories of donor children confusing and hesitatingly alarming as she considers her role in causing her children psychological hardship.
The Anonymous Us Project is a safety zone for real and honest opinions about reproductive technologies and family fragmentation. We aim to share the experiences of voluntary and involuntary participants in these technologies, while preserving the dignity and privacy for story-tellers and their loved ones.
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